If you read this article here, you probably fall into one of two different camps. Either you are one of millions of women in relationships who feel frustrated with your guy because your relationship is not moving forward towards marriage. Or you are one of millions of women in the dating scene who do not seem to get their relationship off the starting pad. You may feel that you never find the love you deserve or start the family you want. In either case … time is ticking. Then you might ask yourself, “What can I do to get a man to marry you within 12 months?”
If you are already in a relationship, one of the biggest temptations is to give ultimatums to get that much sought after wedding ring. This can lead to a way to commit suicide. But if you feel the need to present your boyfriend an ultimatum about your relationship, it must be authentic. Ultimatums are common when it comes to women who so terribly want to get engaged to their boyfriend. The waiting game drives desperation (especially if you’ve been waiting for more than a year or two for your boyfriend to finally ask the question) and desperation can lead to threats!
When we talk about ultimatums, what we really do is use a decorative word for threats. Of course, women who use marriage ultimatums on their boyfriends do not realize that this kind of pressure and ‘all or nothing’ attitude often results in the relationship being subordinate.
So does that mean never using ultimatums? Are they ever acceptable? Only when you are ready to deal with the truth and act on the answer. If you hold your girlfriend a “now or never” lecture, you are better prepared to pack your bags and leave if he comes back with a “never” response. Staying in a relationship after saying ‘never’ only results in losing all credibility and leverage in the relationship. However; if you get a ‘now’ answer, your wishes have been fulfilled. Basically, you only need ultimatums if and when you are ready to hear the truth and are willing to act on the answer, whatever it may be.
If you are not currently in a relationship and you ask “Where can I find a man to marry you within 12 months?”, Where do you start? Many women dive into online dating out of desperation to find “Mr. Right.” Statistics show that 90% of women who participate in online dating sites all email the same 10% of men on those sites. As you can see, competition is fierce and can be unfair to women. You need to learn the best practices of online dating. Take the time to learn what you should and shouldn’t do about online dating before hitting the stage to avoid wasting time.
Have you ever heard the inspirational quote that goes like this: “Our character is what we do when we think no one is watching”? Yes, yes … that wisdom can also be applied to relationships. You can get a good indication of the nature of a potential boyfriend by simply observing what he does and how he treats others when it “doesn’t matter.”
You can tell a lot about a person’s character just by seeing how they interact with other people when they think no one is looking. The guys are always able to put themselves on a ‘front’ for a short period of time, especially on a date. But in the end, they will always return to their true character. To avoid falling for their action, see how they interact and treat people when it doesn’t matter. Honing in on someone’s actions when no one is looking is a good indicator of their true character. Go towards the guy with good character.
If men are not approaching you, ask yourself if there may be something that makes you ‘inaccessible’. Men always approach women, but there are a few exceptions that will stop them dead in their tracks: a group of women, a woman sitting down, a “mean” facial expression, etc. Maybe you are doing something that prevents men from approaching you?
Men act in mysterious ways, and the only thing they strive to protect most in life is their “ego.” Yes, no people like a broken ego. Because of this, men usually turn to women who look “safe” – rather than going up to someone who is likely to embarrass or reject them. Most men will also not approach a woman in a group of friends. This can be scary and make the guy feel like he has to impress all the ladies instead of just one. What I’m trying to say is if you want a man to approach you more frequently, learn how men look at certain situations and position yourself so that you are in a more accessible way.
Finally, your appearance is not the only thing that attracts men, it is the overall package. Too many women think they should be a “10” and everything else makes them go down. This results in low levels of confidence. Without confidence, your chances of finding the perfect man and making him commit are very slim. When it comes to attracting men, it’s not about a personal trait you may or may not have – it’s about the overall score!
I hope this has been of help to you. I wish you well on your journey. Of course, this is only advice and should only be used at your own risk when you consider what you can do to get a man to marry you within 12 months.