My mother often complained about having a lonely marriage. Dad wouldn’t have said he was lonely in marriage. He had his hobbies and interests. So did she. The problem was that they had no common interests. It may also be your problem.
There is no need to settle for a solitary marriage. There must be interests that you share. Otherwise, you would never have married. It is true that some couples rush to the altar before they really get to know each other. If this is the case in your situation, schedule time to get to know each other and prioritize it.
If you are lonely in marriage, you should be able to involve your partner. If this is impossible, if he or she is resilient, there may be other problems. But assuming that both parties are still in love and willing to work together, rather than against each other, there are ways to learn what you have in common and how you can spend more time together.
For many couples, the problem is finding time. Both partners have individual commitments. You may have children who need a lot of attention. But there is always a way to work on more time to spend together if you try. You can also try to get involved with something your spouse likes to do.
If both are bored and lonely in marriage, you may want to consider taking a couple class or joining a club. Ask your spouse out on a date. When both of you enjoy the time you’ve spent together, schedule a weekly date night and try not to let anything bother you.
But one of the quickest ways to cure a lonely marriage is to turn off the TV. If you are both in the house and you are still lonely in marriage, the TV may be the problem. I’ve been to homes where the TV is non-stop. When you turn it off, you find other things to do and you actually talk to each other.
An easy and inexpensive way to spend more time together is to go for a walk. It is good for your health and your relationship. As you walk, you can talk about how you feel.
Talking about your feelings is a great way to start bridging the gap in your relationship. There are plenty of resources available to help you learn how to establish a better line of communication and heal a lonely marriage. It takes work, but it’s worth doing.